Imposter Syndrome is Holding You Back
A strange and troubling phenomenon in our world today is people not believing that they’re good at what they do, even if there’s objective evidence that they’re good at their jobs.
Logically, that doesn’t add up. If there’s evidence that we’re good at what we do, it seems like we should just believe it, right? But I think all of us know that it doesn’t always work like that.
I think that social media is the main reason people are talking about and identifying this Imposter Syndrome more these days. It’s all about comparison, right? We share curated versions of our lives, leaving out the ugly bits and highlighting the good. It makes us as a culture very competitive, despite most social media posts being misleading or at least misrepresentative of our actual lives.
People take pictures of their new job or their new car, but they don’t show the mistakes and failures they made on the way to getting to that point of success. Life appears effortless and easy for them. Even if we know on some level it’s not true, it’s still hard to not feel like the only person in the room who feels stressed out or exhausted or embarrassed.
Imposter Syndrome isolates us from our wins and feeds on our own insecurities, and even if we have all kinds of data to show we’re doing a great job, we can’t help but feel like it isn’t real and people won’t believe us.
We have to let go of that sense that someone is going to “find out” that we’re a fraud and instead focus on the evidence that shows we really are doing a good job. We have to eliminate it from our lives both professionally and personally because it’s divorcing us from our own sense of success and worth.
I’m all about knowing your own value and standing true to yourself in the workplace, and Imposter Syndrome is a perfect example of something that stops that sense of self dead in its tracks.
The reason Imposter Syndrome is so good at tearing us down is because it's an example of negative self-talk. It’s a little voice in our heads that cuts us down and tries to keep us small.
So, how to cure it? Pay attention to the evidence that shows you’re doing a good job, let that evidence stand on its own merit, and let go of the fear that someone is going to “find you out” in your workplace because the truth is that these days most people feel the exact same thing.
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