There's No Distinction Between Personal and Professional
I had an interesting conversation with a new client of mine the other day, and I wanted to tell you about it because it was a real "aha" moment for her. She was telling me that in her life, she'd always focused on her professional goals, putting herself behind her career. I think many of us can relate to that, right? We show up 110% for our teammates, our spouse, our kids, our parents, and somehow there never seems to be anything left for ourselves.
It's an easy trap to fall into. We don't want to make anyone upset, and we don't want to fall behind, so we give and give and give of ourselves until we're exhausted and burnt out. We look up and suddenly realize that we're at the end of our rope, because we’ve been giving all we have to everyone else but ourselves.
I won’t sugarcoat it: fixing this pattern isn’t always easy. Overworking yourself that way is easy to do, and showing up for yourself is hard. The impulse to devalue your own interests is automatic, but I'm asking you to do what my client did: put yourself first. Take your self-care seriously. I'm not talking about chocolates and bubble baths, I mean eating foods that nourish you and make you feel great, taking time for regular movement that relaxes and energizes you, and getting enough sleep at night.
You can wander into a life of putting yourself last, but it takes intentionality to get out.
This stuff is hard to do. You'll have to set new boundaries with yourself (looking at those of you checking emails at midnight) and with others, but it's a transformational, incredible process. You can't show up 100% unless you let yourself recharge, and putting yourself first will help you show up stronger and with more authenticity for literally everyone in your life.
When my client made the connection between how she was showing up for herself professionally but not personally, she realized that those two sides of her life aren't separate entities, but two sides of one coin. The impact of that aha moment for her has helped her so much, and it's been incredibly powerful to see how, when she started showing up for herself first, her career moved forward by leaps and bounds.
If you relate to what my client was feeling, then your roadblock to getting the seat at the table that you're after might be that you're devaluing yourself. The solution? Connect your personal self with your professional self, and start thinking of your career journey as part of a whole life journey.
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